I wish for you that you can actually look forward to the future.
Deeply connect with your partner and (future, possible) children.
Create and keep lifelong, deeply trusted and fulfilling friendships.
Fully being yourself, so you can live the rest of a life you thoroughly enjoy.
Honoring, respecting and loving yourself.
Healed&Happy is here for you.
I'd love for you to get to a place where you are actually healed and I would be honored (and excited!) to guide you there.
You’ve probably tried many things to get and feel better, but it feels like you keep working really hard at it and not getting anywhere.
You’re still experiencing the same patterns and you just don’t want that anymore.
I know you want peace. In your mind, body, and relationships.
You want to feel safe, confident, and free from fear.
You’ve gone through pretty much your whole life doing things, and thinking things, that don’t make sense to you. That don’t feel like you. But at the same time, feel so familiar, and like you have to think and feel this way, or else…
You keep feeling like you need to solve something in order to be happy, somewhere in the future.
You wonder why you can’t ‘just’ have a normal healthy relationship.
You secretly wonder whether you are just too broken, and life feels.. overwhelming. Like you have to do everything right, and still won’t have the certainty that everything will actually be alright.
And you’re afraid to hurt other people or do something wrong just by existing.
I get tears in my eyes just writing this. All of it is not you. It is not your fault, and it is not your character.
You deserve freedom, peace and love. You have always been worthy of that.
When you’ve healed the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style, you will look back on this and think: wow, it never had to be this way.
Because feeling that freedom, peace and love will feel so normal.
Of course you’re worthy of that.
Of course you’re worthy of being treated with nothing but respect.
Of course you get to make mistakes, and exist and be adored.
That’s exactly why I created Healed & Happy.
It is specifically designed for you.
Because you deserve to have a program made completely for healing the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style.
You also deserve to have a program that adjusts to what you need, in every moment.
That’s why we made this journey tailor made: we help you decide what to heal next, and we are with you every step of the way through personal guidance in the chat.
Healing the very specific roots of the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style, combined with several healing modalities that work especially well for Fearful Avoidants, you’ll heal faster and more thoroughly while feeling good along the way.
That's not a gimmick: I’m always looking to make this journey easier and faster because I know how overhwhelming it can be.
I so wish for you to actually feel good and finally feel at peace.
Because I want you to know...
That there is more to life than struggle, fights, fear and anxiety. You get to feel true calm, and unshakable peace and you get to truly feel safe, and live in abundance in all areas of your life
In this program, you will...
Make healing feel safe, and easier. Step into a new reality where feeling safe, healed and happy is your normal. Deeply connect with yourself, your desires and your happiness. Create a world inside you and around you that supports you fully, while you are just being you
When you've healed, you will experience a freedom
You never knew existed, but feels so good
This is what the ‘First Pathway’ roughly looks like:
Introduction
In this module you will learn and apply the tools to make your healing journey much, much easier and faster.
Module 1
In this module you will lay a foundation for the rest of your life to help aid your healing, and make sure you aren’t struggling without getting anywhere.
Module 2
After this module you will have a complete shift around what you are worth and deserving of.
Module 3
In this module you will heal one of the most important core beliefs of the fearful avoidant attachment style, and clearly feel what it feels like to heal one.
Module 4
After this module you will feel so much calmer, and MUCH more at peace. You won’t have the need to be hyperalert anymore, and will allow yourself to truly relax.
Module 5
In this module you will heal a very surprising driving force of the FA. One that took me 8 years to figure out, and made a world of difference. After healing this, you will allow yourself so much more of all the beautiful things in life.
Module 6
After this module, you will finally allow yourself to deeply connect with yourself, your partner, friends and (possible) future children.
Module 7
In this module you will release everything that’s holding you back from being happy NOW. You will stop postponing your happiness and truly start enjoying your life, even while healing.
After the first pathway you get assigned further pathways based on your answers. These heal a wide variety of things, from codependency to procrastination, from perfectionism to waking up relaxed and rested.
And many more!
These pathways are always added to and improved. The more pathways there are, the more valuable the program will be. Any added pathways in the future will be available to you when you sign up now for this price.
"Just did Module 2 - Who you are. It almost brought tears to my eyes. This was the thing I was searching for the last 8 years Paulien, and maybe my whole life before that unconsciously due to attachment trauma.."
Andris
Latvia
"I have cried more times in the 3 days since I bought this than I have in the past 2 years. So much trauma has been released. I AM NOT EVEN DONE WITH THE PROGRAM"
Eric
USA
The main reason is: I’ve been there. In 8 years, I healed the Fearful Avoidant Attachment style by myself, mostly through EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and I’ve helped over 1500 people in my Dutch programs do the same.
Besides that, here’s my official bio :):
Paulien Timmer has written two books before she was 30. The first was ‘Lang+Gelukkig’ (freely translated: Happily Ever After), written after interviewing 100 couples happily married over 40 years) and ’50 Relatieboosters’ (translated: 50 relationshipboosters): all based on science and positive psychology.
She is certified by John Gottman in Clinical Therapy (level 1), Attachment & Trauma (ITTI), and in Emotional Freedom Techniques, NLP Practitioner, Clinical Hypnotherapy, and many more.
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This video was recorded in 2022, when the program had just come out. Now, so many years later, we know it actually works!
Really well, also. Because, as much as I have poured my heart and soul into making this program, I also just wanted to know that it worked. So we actually measure progress, and most of the numbers in the survey that you fill in go down (from 8’s and 9’s to 2’s and 3’s!)
There are so many well meaning coaches and therapists out there, that know a lot about attachment styles, and try to help heal the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style.
They can absolutely be wonderful and really help. But what I see a lot, is that you, as a Fearful Avoidant, get underserved.
Healing the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style genuinely works so different from the other ones. Your fearbrain is exceptionally strong (something I call a Fear-dominant brain). It absolutely needs to feel safe. But feeling safe looks different for your fearbrain. There are so many paradoxes, hidden resistance and counterintuitive steps to really healing this. Which is why talk therapy, journaling or mindset work often fall short (even with the most well-meaning, well-intentioned therapists)
Healed & Happy is just completely focused on, and specialised in, healing the very specific roots of this attachment style. It is different because we are not going to fight your fearbrain. We work with it, and that makes the difference between working on healing for the rest of you life, and actually getting to a place of being healed.
Feeling safe.
Feeling worthy, supported, loved.
Feeling calm.
And all of those things feeling totally fine for the Fearbrain.
All the things I so wish for you to feel
Using very specific processes designed for the Fearful Avoidant brain, we guide your system out of survival mode, so healing finally feels safe.
"Healed & Happy works!
On average, participants see a 75% improvement in feeling more calm and having more positive beliefs."
-Paulien
Experience in healing the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
Fearful Avoidants helped in 8 years
Average improvement in feeling calm and having more positive beliefs
If for any reason you're not satisfied with the value you receive, simply reach out within 30 days of your purchase, and we'll refund your money in full. I just really want this to work for you. I really believe in the power of this program, and we will do everything we can on our end to help you. But if it doesn't, I will be happy to give you your money back. This guarantee is our way of ensuring you can try it out risk-free!
Earnings Disclaimer: Every effort has been made to accurately represent the value of our programs and the potential for transformation in your healing journey. However, we cannot guarantee any specific changes in your attachment style from applying the strategies and techniques shared. The figures we present are analysis from previous participants. These figures should not be interpreted as a promise, guarantee, or indication of your own future success. Your results will depend on several factors beyond our control, including your situation, skills and effort. Subject to our Refund Policy, all content is provided without any express or implied warranties. By continuing to access our content or make purchases, you acknowledge that we are not responsible for any outcomes you do or do not achieve based on the information we provide.
The program is set up through an app, where you get a tailormade journey through different modules specifically aimed at healing parts of the fearful avoidant attachment style. It is self paced, and when you finish one module, we assign you the next, based on the answers in your survey and what you would like to work on!
Step 1: You fill in a long survey with questions like 'How afraid are you that you will mess up (sooner or later)?'
Step 2: You start with the core foundational pathway. This will already heal some of the most important roots.
Step 3: After you've completed the first path, you fill in the survey again.
Step 4: We manually assign you the next pathway we think will benefit you the most
And we keep going, assigning more pathways, until you feel you don't need support anymore! All the while supporting you in the chat with questions you have.
Frequently asked questions
Lifetime access to an online membership portal where you will always be able to access all materials
Access to an app where you can go through the program at your own pace, receive notifications, reminders and affirmations to extra support you on your healing journey
Personal involvement from Paulien and her team by reviewing your progress and guiding you towards the next modules most relevant to you
The Healed & Happy program provides tailored guidance to help you heal from the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style. It focuses on understanding and working through your emotional triggers, developing healthier patterns, and building secure, loving relationships.
The program is self-paced and typically takes 8-12 weeks to complete, depending on your personal progress and dedication.
Whether you are in a relationship or currently single, if you struggle with the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and are ready to work on healing and creating lasting change, this program is designed for you.
I so wish for you to experience the freedom, the peace and the love that you are already worthy of. You have amazing gifts, and when the fear driving all of the struggles you have is healed, you will naturally feel and enjoy those gifts. You are an amazing person, who was just unlucky with what happened. But whatever can be installed, can be uninstalled, so let’s do that 🙂
/month for 4 months
Lifetime access to Healed & Happy
Access to the app with custom pathways
Personalized guidance through surveys
Personal questions answered through a private chat
Custom healing journey, with pathways assigned based on your answers in the survey
Lifetime access to Healed & Happy
Access to the app with custom pathways
Personalized guidance through surveys
Personal questions answered through a private chat
Custom healing journey, with pathways assigned based on your answers in the survey
Lifetime access to Healed & Happy
Plus 3 months of bi-weekly personal coaching by Paulien
A bi-weekly private coaching session with Paulien
Personalized tapping and healing scripts
Intensive healing journey
Plus everything associated with Healed & Happy
Access to the app with custom pathways
Personalized guidance through surveys
Personal questions answered through a private chat
Custom healing journey, with pathways assigned based on your answers in the survey
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